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Things to Know if You Want to Share Custody During and After a San Diego Divorce

On Behalf of | Sep 30, 2021 | Child Custody and Visitation

What are some things to know if you want to share custody during and after a San Diego divorce?  The Judge in your case will be extremely observant of both parties in any case involving child custody and parenting time.  How you handle yourself throughout the case will be extremely important to accomplishing your goals for shared parenting.

One of the most important things to know if you want to share custody during and after a San Diego divorce is how to manage communications.  You need to really stop and think before sending or responding to any text, email, voicemail, phone call or social media post.  The best policy is to never send any communication if you are angry or upset.  Start with this assumption: The Judge is going to read/hear any message you send to your former spouse.  This is due to the fact that any text, email or voicemail you send to your former spouse can be submitted as evidence in your case regarding your suitability as a co-parent.  You want to make sure to carefully manage all communications if you want to co-parent your children.

The next thing to consider is “boundaries.”  Boundaries are crucial in any situation where the parties want to share custody during and after a San Diego divorce.  Therefore, it is important to set and observe many types of boundaries as a co-parent.  One example is being prompt for all drop-off, pick-up and exchange times.  It is important for each child to be able to communicate openly with each of their parents.  Establish open channels of communication including phone calls, emails and texting.  It may be necessary to set specific times for each child (based upon their unique schedule) for communicating with the other parent.  Another important boundary is never to speak poorly of the other co-parent in front of the children.  Attempting to poison the relationship between a child and their parent is not in the child’s best interests and can bring harsh sanctions from the Court.

If you want to share custody during and after a San Diego divorce you will need to work on developing and implementing a parenting plan which reflects the best interests of each child while establishing clear guidelines and expectations for the co-parenting process.

Learn more about co-parenting during and after your divorce.  We invite you to protect your own interests and contact us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment for a remote or socially distanced consultation with one of our experienced Certified Family Law Specialists.