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What is Parallel Parenting and Co-Parenting After a Divorce

On Behalf of | Dec 26, 2021 | Child Custody and Visitation

What is Parallel Parenting and Co-Parenting after a divorce in San Diego.  A recent article in Psychology Today provides insight into two styles of parenting children following a divorce.  Our San Diego Family Courts are very flexible in what they are willing to consider as part of a parenting plan.  While creativity and existing rhythms of each child may come into play, the Court is focused on the primary guiding principle of “the best interest of the child.”

Two of the newer parenting models are “Parallel Parenting” and “Co-Parenting.”  What is parallel parenting and co-parenting after a divorce in San Diego and which (or both) would be best for your unique scenario?

Parallel parenting is based on the principle that each parent is going to raise their child(ren) according to their own values and parenting style when the child(ren) stay with them.  In a parallel parenting model everything between the former spouses is purposefully kept separate.  The child’s parents do not attend the same activities, parent-teacher conference, school function or doctor’s appointment.  In a parallel parenting model communication is often limited to written comms through texting or e-mail.

Co-parenting is a collaborative strategy where both parents work cooperatively under the same basic rules and style of parenting to raise their child(ren).  The focus of co-parenting is creating a positive, supportive and stable environment for each child.  Co-parenting requires flexibility, transparency and the willingness to openly communicate and when necessary compromise.

Now that you know a little more about Parallel Parenting and Co-Parenting after a divorce in San Diego which feels like a better fit for your family?  The parenting plan which is best for your family may be a blend of the two, and a schedule which is either quite rigid or extremely flexible.  The Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq work with our clients to help them to understand what is possible and how to ultimately reach agreement on how the children are to be raised.  Learn more while protecting your own interests and contact us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment for a remote or socially distanced consultation with one of our experienced Certified Family Law Specialists.