It may seem obvious, but peaceful co-parenting is best for your children after divorce. California couples know that marriages may not last, but co-parenting partnerships do. When faced with the end of their marriage, parents must choose whether they want to have an amicable divorce or an acrimonious one which will negatively impact the psychological and emotional well-being of their children.
Whether or not parents stay married, their children need a safe, secure and loving environment in order to thrive. They need to see their parents as peaceful partners, not as angry adversaries who are out to get each other. To this end, parents need to consider the parameters of their relationship during and after the divorce and learn how to positively communicate with each other, at least in public and in front of the children.
In your divorce you will face many complex legal issues such as child support, child custody and parenting plans. The advice of our Certified Family Law Specialists throughout the divorce process can be helpful for a parent who is struggling with these matters. Conflicts and disagreements are best resolved behind closed doors, and away from your children.
Depending on a child’s age, parents should carefully consider how often they will need to communicate with each other to successfully co-parent and the tone in which this communication will take place, both privately and in front of their kids. They should also think about how often they will publicly interact with each other during holidays and school activities and consider how to make it comfortable for their children.
Peaceful co-parenting is best for your children after divorce not to mention the reduction in your own emotional burdens. Envision the school-related and extra-curricular scenarios where you will interact with the other co-parent. Develop strategies to maintain a calm and steady presence, and consider agreements which can be made to preserve the peace while supporting the children.
It is in the best interests of your own health and that of your children to move past resentment and anger and focus your attention on creating a nurturing and supportive post-divorce environment for your kids.
Amicable co-existence isn’t always easy, but peaceful co-parenting is best for your children after divorce.