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Texting a Former Spouse During or After a San Diego Divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 19, 2022 | Divorce

What are the best strategies for texting a former spouse during or after a San Diego divorce?  Perhaps the most important things to keep in mind anytime you text a former spouse are the tone and obviously the content of what is written.  Texts are a permanent form of communication which can be brought into any Court proceeding as evidence.  What one says and how one says it directly reflects on their own credibility before the Court as well as their qualifications to be considered as a co-parent for child custody and parenting time.

Never text in anger.  If you are involved in any written communication such as e-mailing or texting a former spouse during or after a San Diego divorce you want to view each text prior to hitting “send” as if you were the Judge in your case.  How will what you have written come across to the Court from 3 perspectives:

  1. Can you be entrusted with co-parenting and do your texts and other communications reflect an ability to maintain perspective and work through potential issues?
  2. How will what you are about to send reflect on your own character and credibility?
  3. Is this how you want the Judge to perceive you? If this text becomes part of the written public record of your divorce do you want anyone and everyone (including your own children in the future) to read it?

Texting a former spouse during or after a San Diego divorce is obviously a quick and effective tool for communicating, especially when it comes to the care and support of a child.  However, you should develop a strategy for when you will (and will not) communicate, and when you will cease communications in the moment (such as when you or your former spouse are getting angry or upset).

It is important to remember that texts and all forms of written communication can be taken completely out of context and used against your own interests.  This is why it is important to work with the Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq to pre-plan and develop strategies for the divorce itself and after the process is completed.

Protect your own interests and contact us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment for a remote or socially distanced consultation with one of our experienced Certified Family Law Specialists.