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Tips for Divorcing a Narcissist in Carlsbad

On Behalf of | Mar 29, 2022 | Divorce

What are some tips for divorcing a narcissist in Carlsbad?  Divorce is one of the most challenging processes for many who are bringing their marriage to an end in San Diego.  Preparing to divorce a narcissist is always going to present a difficult and contentious divorce.  You need the proven experience of the Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq to guide you through the process and protect your interests at each step.

What defines a narcissist?  Simply put, a narcissist is someone who is totally focused on themselves and their own interests.  While the “me first” attitude and personality style of a narcissist is quite self-centered and combative, it actually hides a very low level of self-esteem.  This makes a narcissist extremely sensitive to any form of disagreement, confrontation or criticism.  Perfectionism complicates the process and one of the best tips for divorcing a narcissist in Carlsbad is to realize you are not a bad person and to reject the inevitable barrage of criticism and false legal posturing you will face.

This may require the addition of a qualified and experienced psychologist to your team as you approach the divorce.  The team at Burke & Domercq has extensive experience in these cases and provides sound legal advice as well as counsel.  Having your own psychologist to talk to throughout the process and to provide insight into the tactics required to manage your divorce will be an important support mechanism.

You know that in many cases your narcissistic spouse “stretches the truth” in many situations.  They present one set of facts and may even seem to come to an agreement only to completely change their position and then attempt to convince you of the “facts.”  Get everything in writing.  Communicate calmly, strategically and carefully in writing.  This also helps to document important lies and misrepresentations for crucial moments in the process surrounding everything from child custody and visitation to the division of community property.

Choosing your battles wisely is another of the important tips for divorcing a narcissist in Carlsbad.  It may seem counter-intuitive to you it is important to find opportunities for a narcissist to “win.”  Our attorneys work with you to protect and accomplish your own goals while finding opportunities to allow the narcissist to perceive they have won on a point (a point you may not actually care as much about).

This is going to be a tough process.  You need proven, experienced divorce attorneys like the team at Burke & Domercq to guide you through your divorce while accomplishing your goals.  Your divorce will require careful planning, and well-executed strategies and boundaries to protect your objectives while preserving your own sense of well-being.

We invite you to review the strong recommendations of former clients and the legal industry, protect your interests and contact us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment for a safe, confidential and private consultation with one of our experienced and proven Certified Family Law Specialists.