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Proven Strategies as You Contemplate Divorce in Carlsbad

On Behalf of | Nov 20, 2019 | Divorce

Are you searching for proven strategies as you contemplate divorce in Carlsbad.  This is the time of year when many start to give serious consideration to ending their marriage.  It is very human to consider the family and your circle of friends going into the holidays.  However, the planning and preparation you invest into this decision will pay substantial dividends and help you to accomplish your goals and objectives for the divorce.

The Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq have a proven strategies based upon decades of experience as you prepare for filing a divorce in Carlsbad or anywhere in North County San Diego. How can you decrease costs, reduce the time it takes to complete the process, reduce the emotional and stress burden and have a greater opportunity for success once the divorce decree is issued?

Here are a few thoughts and proven strategies as you contemplate divorce in North County or Carlsbad:

1. Develop strategies to keep your emotions in check. California is a no fault divorce state and the Court isn’t going to want to hear about what’s happened between you and your spouse. That may sound harsh, but you will need a strategy to work through issues of anger, disappointment, betrayal, and other emotions while separating them from the important decisions which lie before you.  Decisions taken in the midst of emotion or anger are rarely sound decisions.  You will have rough patches and bad days.  You will also have moments of calm resolution.  Focus on the outcome, one issue at a time and have a strategy for self-care.  Understand the importance of keeping all communications between you and your (soon to be) former spouse neutral.  Assume everything you write, leave in a voicemail, text, email, or post will be placed before the Judge in your case, as well as your church, your friends and co-workers, your family and children.  It’s likely it will.  The tone of all of your communications will have an impact on how the Judge perceives you and, if you have children, your ability to co-parent.

2. If you have children keep their best interests ahead of yours.  The court will.  California child custody and parenting time law is based upon the best interests of the child(ren).  Children are facing their own challenges as you go through the process of a divorce.   It’s very common to endure a wide range of emotions, especially regarding children.  A good counselor can help you to work through things in a positive way, while you work on a sound plan which will provide the best opportunity for your children to come through this experience.  Our experienced attorneys will provide sound counsel and proven strategies as you contemplate divorce in North County or Carlsbad.

3. Areas of disagreement are the greatest source of expense in any divorce. There are times where a matter of principle or a primary goal requires the involvement of the court, however this will add to both the time and expense of your divorce.  The fastest, least expensive and lowest emotional divorce is experienced by those who attempt to work constructively together through negotiation or mediation to resolve differences and ultimately forge a settlement agreement which reflects your goals and objectives.

4. Speaking of goals and objectives – know what you want, what’s most important to you. The experienced attorneys at Burke & Domercq help our clients to establish clear goals and priorities for their divorce.  This helps to guide decision making, negotiations and mediation and ensures the ultimate outcome has the best opportunity to reflect what is most important to you personally.

We hope you find these beginning ideas to be helpful.  They are a few of our proven strategies as you contemplate divorce in Carlsbad or anywhere in Carlsbad.  The Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq have represented the people of Carlsbad before our divorce and family law courts for decades.  This experience informs the sound advice and counsel we provide for our clients.

If you are considering a divorce this season, we invite you to review the recommendations of our clients and the legal industry and reach out to us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment with one of our proven and skilled family law attorneys. The quality and experience of your attorney will have a profound affect on your experience through the process and the it’s ultimate outcome – the framework which forms the foundation of your life moving forward.