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How to Have a Less Adversarial Divorce in Carlsbad

On Behalf of | Apr 19, 2021 | Divorce

Are you wondering if it’s possible to have a less adversarial divorce in Carlsbad?  Is it possible to reduce the emotional burden and argumentative processes of your divorce?  The short answer is “yes” and you may be encouraged to hear it doesn’t require a lot of cooperation from your former spouse.

One of the most pervasive myths about divorce is the attorneys drive up the cost.  In fact, the vast majority of divorces in California are actually filed by one of the parties without legal representation.  The fact is, the vast majority of divorces cannot be completed until both sides have an attorney.  It’s not the attorneys in your divorce which drive up the cost.

The most important fact to know about divorce is this:  The cost of your divorce and the time it takes to complete are both directly linked to the amount of disagreement between the parties and their ability to resolve all issues.  A divorce cannot be finalized until every facet of the case is resolved, one way or another.

The primary ways to resolve areas of disagreement are:

  • Negotiation
  • Mediation
  • Litigation before the Court

It is absolutely to have a less adversarial divorce in Carlsbad and still find a resolution for every issue you and your former spouse presently have disagreement.  The first step is to develop a few strategies before you ever file for a divorce.  Communications are the central issue in this respect.  How you communicate with your former spouse will have a substantial impact on resolving disagreement and resolving issues.  It will also have a substantial impact on your own emotional journey throughout the divorce and whether or not you accomplish your own goals and objectives.

The fastest and least expensive divorce is usually characterized by parties who are able to work through the issues at hand and negotiate a settlement agreement which works for both parties.  But what should you do if your former spouse is argumentative, controlling or combative?

Relax.  Communicate when you are calm and have collected your thoughts.

The Certified Family Law Specialists at Burke & Domercq provide sound advice and counsel at every step of your divorce.  We share proven strategies based upon decades of experience.  We work with our clients from the outset of the case to establish specific strategies for managing communications, negotiations and keeping the process moving forward.

Mediation is a cost-effective and timely option for resolving dispute(s).  This private, confidential and structured process helps to keep the conversation and tone of communications focused upon the issue at hand.  The mediator and your attorney help to guide you through each conversation while contributing insight into the law and options which have worked in similar circumstances.

It is absolutely possible to have a less adversarial divorce in Carlsbad. Protect your own interests and contact us or call 760-389-3927 to schedule an appointment for a remote or socially distanced consultation with one of our experienced Certified Family Law Specialists.

Our experienced, proven Certified Family Law Specialists will work with you to develop and implement strategies to protect your interests and accomplish your goals and objectives.