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Divorcing a Former Spouse with a Difficult Personality

On Behalf of | Jun 10, 2019 | Divorce

What do you need to know if you are divorcing a former spouse with a difficult personality?  People with difficult personalities can unfortunately lead to difficult divorces.  However, with the right attorney and the right strategy you can manage difficult personalities.

Difficult personality types such as a narcissist, sociopath, anti-social, bipolar or borderline personality disorder want control.  They seek argument and upheaval.  They will often resist all legal orders regarding information disclosure, asset valuation, even child support and spousal support.

Divorcing a former spouse with a difficult personality requires emotional control, a strategic plan and discipline.  Each specific personality type requires a bit of a different approach, but all will require a specific strategy to ensure the best possible outcome in your case.

The Family Law Certified Specialists at Burke & Domercq have decades of experience in these challenging divorce cases in Carlsbad.  We help to prepare our clients at each step in the process.

It begins with emotional control.  Generally speaking, emotional decisions are often not our best decisions.  It is best to disengage from a difficult personality type as much as possible.  Email, texting and social media should be avoided as much as possible.  If they are ranting or raging in an electronic format it is simply additional evidence which will weigh against them.  You should not respond to angry, manipulative communications or false claims or assertions.  Many people who are divorcing a spouse with a difficult personality seek counseling to provided additional insight and support along the way.

This is followed by specific strategy.  We work with you to establish goals and objectives on all major issues within your divorce.  We work to protect the best interests of our client as well as any children of the marriage.  The court has its own process for evaluating and dealing with a difficult personality and issues such as their capacity to parent.

Your former spouse will try everything possible to keep you off your balance and emotionally engaged.   Our attorneys help you to remain calm, keep perspective and establish and implement specific strategies.  You should understand every step of the process and how to manage communications with other parties when necessary.  Are you divorcing a former spouse with a difficult personality in Carlsbad, Encinitas, Oceanside or anywhere in North County San Diego?  Contact Burke & Domercq or call 760-389-3927 to speak with us personally and schedule an appointment.